I’m completely lost on what to get my mom for Mother’s Day. I’ve already been searching all over the internet, and I couldn’t find anything that said "I love you." I found amusing suggestions such as a creepy cat clock, a fog machine, and solar wind chimes. Nothing that you would give your mother for Mother’s Day. These things seemed more like gag-gifts.

I also have to find something for my friend. She’s thirty-seven, and she’s like a mother to me. Seriously, if you took away the ink on my birth certificate and the blood in my veins, there would be no difference between them. I love both my mother and my friend with all my heart, and I want to get them both something special.

Asking my dad wasn’t helpful, because his ideas are just as strange as the others I’ve listed. And I can’t tell him that I want to get a gift for my friend, because he doesn’t approve of the fact that I love her and her husband as if they were my second set of parents. He’d just scowl and ask my why I was getting her a gift, if I asked him. So talking with Dad is out of the question.

Any ideas, Moms? What are some things that you might like for Mother’s Day? Or, what would be some things that you’d hope to get from your fourteen year old daughter? Please help, I’ve reached the brick wall in my mind that marks the end of ideas.




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Emotionally Distant and Apathetic?




sorry for expanding on this or offering my input this way, but I found this question on the internet and I just wanted to expand on it. Someone had suggested that this person maybe suffered from HFA/AS, and I don’t think that’s what she has at all. Symptoms of emotional despondence, aloofness, and apathy are associated with major depressive disorder, and not high-functioning autism or asperger’s. Although some people with HFA/AS can seem to be aloof, a lot of them are very expressive. At least the ones with mild AS are expressive. The ones that have more severe autism tend to be kind of out of it, though. But it’s probably because their minds are on a completely different level that I can’t tap into, so they appear aloof because they are observing and processing the world on a level that I wouldn’t understand because I’m not autistic. I’ve always wondered how they think.

Anywho, here’s what the question was, and here’s the response:

Emotionally Distant and Apathetic?

"I feel like I feel nothing at all. I have brief moments of happiness but ultimatly I feel nothing else, including grief, remorse, love, sadness, etc. Complete emptyness and complete apathy, like if I was in a life or death situation I would do nothing to stop myself from dying. I don’t feel an emotional bond with anyone I should, like my parents. I used to feel but my emotions have just been weaning away for about three years. I thought I might get better but I talked to my father about it and he said he felt the same way throughout his teens and it didn’t go away for him. Does anybody know what this is or what its called, I have searched the internet but have found nothing which fits with how I feel."

I just wanted to expand on this a bit, because people have some misconceptions here which need to be ramified. Emotional distance/Apathy is often a symptom of depression. It is not often something associated with bipolar depression or HFA/AS. Most people with HFA/AS are extremely motivated, can concentrate for hours on end, are driven, and are academically-gifted. However, they can have some symptoms of ADHD, so they can be distractible. As for bipolar, it is only during the depressive phases that one can feel emotional/cognitive dissonance or apathy. And this is mostly associated with major depression. it is not a consistent finding in people with HFA/AS unless they, for some reason, have a depressive disorder.

As for depression, believe me I know how that goes. I have bipolar, and when I’m at my lowest, I just feel nothing. I have like…no emotions. But I have tried some natural remedies that work with depression, as my bipolar meds didn’t work at all. I’ve tried St. John’s Wort, and that works a lot better for me than zyprexa and depakote ever did. They did absolutely nothing except make my hair fall out, for some reason. The depakote did that. So I switched to more organic remedies like St. John’s Wort and multivitamins to give me energy. Green Tea is amazing stuff for giving you an energy boost. So you should try those if meds don’t work. Also, exercise and meditation help too. I’ve gone into studying Buddhism, and I’m studying mindfulness to help me channel my emotions into positive energy. It’s worked really well for me - you should try that out. Either way, don’t give up. You can get through this. Also, see if you can find a support structure at home or with your friends, so that you can talk to them when you have trouble. But whatever you do, just don’t give up. Find something that interests you, and channel your energy into it so that you can feel a cathartic release from it. Don’t let your thoughts distract you; just go out there and find something you can put your energy into.




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Need feedback on my new self therapy routine ?




My sad story in short : severely abused ( in many ways ) since birth up to my late teens by both parents and relative , suffered like hell , was a walking zombie most of the time and now am ready to heal but can’t afford therapy . Now i’m 25 , alone but feelin brave enuff to face up to my issues .

So below is the list of practices that i think could get me out of this deep and dark tunnel that i am in .

1) Zen meditation and mindfulness ( i admit i’m not discipline enuff to do it everyday tho LoL)

2) EFT -emotional freedom . I’m new to this , but seems to be working .

3) I’ve downloaded Brain Sync’s brainwave CD’s in the hope of reprogramming my mind .

What is missing ? Any opinions ?

thanks
I also plan on doing EMDR which i heard work wonders once i have the money for it




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Obesity ?
93% of the cases of fat people and obesity comes from the genes. It is hereditary.
Scientists are very close to discovering the Fat and Obese gene, and will soon find a permanent cure for this !!
Even "The Buddha" yes was fat. But for him too, it was in his genetic makeup. He inherited this gene from his parents. Although, he was one of the very few people in history that overcome this gene. He went on a 7 year fast from food, in hopes of more quickly getting rid of all his negative defilements(impatience, anger, intolerance, etc.) but he came to the realization that this happens through Mindfulness Meditation, not through starving himself !
He did through his 7 years fast, lost over 385 pounds. That is why many see statues of a Fat Buddha and also see statues of a more healthy Buddha, thinner, wholesome and healthier physically. The last two-thirds of his life he was thin and healthy.

I use to be 268 lbs.thru Southbeach Diet lost I 168 pounds & exercise 1 hr day!




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Does anyone know if this is This Kleptomania?




well this will be long but please don’t let it discourage you from helping…

well,it all started a few years ago in 7th grade,i stole a part of a xylophone
since then i have stolen
-money
-a part of a wind chime (one of the bars)
-another bar from a xylophone
-a pair of finger cymbals
-a stick to play a triangle
and most recently,an ipod nano.
im scared for myself…it all was like a nightmare,i just realized a few minutes ago that i really did it,i know i need help but i can’t tell my parents,they’ve had to deal with my mental problems for awhile and i’ve been doing good so i thought i’d give them a break.
but i feel horrible,and worst,i think someone knows i took it,i wanna be the first doctor in my family and i can’t do that if im in prison before i even graduate.
what should i do??




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I am need of advice on how to use feng shui or any other tips to make my father move out of mine and my husband’s house. He has been here too long and doesn’t not seem to have any notion to leave. He is retired and says he just wants to be around us! His stay is getting bothersome to us but we do not want to hurt his feelings. I was hoping there was some feng shui cure for this but can’t seem to find any. And we are in the process of trying to sell our house, so the feng shui correction can not interfere with that.
Thanks!
I just want to add that my father is healthy and has retired with a good deal of money. He does not "need" to stay with us. He can easliy afford something close to us. We love him dearly but as an adult, you move out of your parents house and you don’t expect them to move back in with you - especially since he does not need to be cared for. It puts a strain on our marriage (only 4 years married) because we sometimes have no time to ourselves. I just want some advice on how to help him understand that we need our space too!
For those of you who feel sorry for my dad that I feel this way, you should know one more thing…
He does not help out with money, groceries or anything but expects me to cook and clean for him. He also sits out back of my house almost every day and just drinks beer - sometimes 12 a day. Now, I have 3 children - 12, 3 and 5 months and this is something that I don’t want them exposed to. My dad can’t even help babysit if I need to do something because he typically has already had too many beers.




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